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Are You Really ‘In Love’ with a Sex Worker?
So it turns out when men seek the services of a stripper or prostitute, they may also be open to love. New research analyzed thousands of posts from a sex provider web discussion board and came to the conclusion that men who become regular clients of sex workers often are seeking real love and intimacy.
Study authors Christine Milrod and Ronald Weitzer of George Washington University analyzed 2,442 postings on an online discussion board from a sex provider where clients review sex workers and discuss their interactions with them. The Web site is reported to have more than 1 million clients of sex workers read and post about their experiences, the researchers said.
The study, published in the journal Men and Masculinities, said approximately one-third of the postings studied included a discussion about emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients.
Many of the men expressed a desire to grow their relationships with sex workers beyond the physical level to include sharing private feelings and mutual love, the study said.
“In recent years, we have come to see a gradual normalization of independent escort prostitution, where sexual encounters have come to resemble quasi-dating relationships,” Milrod said. “Our study shows that regular clients of a particular sex provider often come to experience feelings of deep affection, which can progress into an authentic love story.”
Given the scope of risks associated with sex workers – sexually transmitted infections, arrest, robbery, etc. it may be incumbent on men to become more introspective and distinguish between sexual and emotional needs. Men should be encouraged to talk about the need for intimacy with a counselor, spiritual leader, or even among close friends. Further, precaution is a must when seeking sex services. The risk of contracting an infection, even when using condoms are significant. Additionally, there can be misplaced emotions that need to be clarified because one is lonely. Loneliness often influences individuals to engage in behaviors they ordinarily may never do. Be careful.