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Fathers & Daughters
This is not a holiday story but a timely reminder of how daughters (and sons) need a loving home, a father figures. Absentee fathers can seriously influence the trajectory of a child’s future. According to the United Press International news service, a Zimbabwean man who called for a prostitute to come to his hotel room said he collapsed to the floor when his daughter showed up.
Father-of-three Titus Ncube of Bulawayo said he called for a prostitute to come to the hotel room in which he was staying while having marital problems and was shocked when his 20-year-old daughter arrived, the story made its way to the British tabloid the Mirror.
Ncube said he collapsed to floor upon recognizing his daughter, who quickly fled, crying.
“I am sorry for what I did,” Ncube said. “I spoke to my wife and daughter. I apologized for my actions as I just wanted my family back. My daughter has stopped doing what she was doing and is going back to school next year. My marital problems are not over, but we have a counselor who is helping us to get over this most difficult period.”
Ncube’s wife, Rosemary, agreed their marriage was troubled.
“If it were not for my children, I could have divorced him a long time ago. But because of the trauma that divorce has on children, I decided to stay,” she said.
This story has so many lessons for all of us, least of which is that staying together for the sake of children will not always bring about the outcome one hopes. Additionally, men (and women) who commit adultery or solicit from sex workers are often involved with someone else’s husband, wife, or even daughter. This real-life turn-of-events will hopefully remind us all that relationships can be complex but adding sex partners might not be the answer. Lastly, the healthy father-daughter relationship is something to protect, treasure, and nurture. If you are a father not close with your daughter (or son), it’s incumbent on you to make the first, second, third, and every move to protect your child from drugs, abuse, or even prostitution. It’s never too late.