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An alarming trend has emerged on social media lately particularly on Facebook where those who have been diagnosed with disease have decided to embrace or bring awareness to the disease by posting pictures and facts regarding the disease. This is unwise.
Many believe you should never ‘own’ a disease. In fact, you want to reduce the amount of time that you speak about being ill versus being healthy. By being diligent you are refusing to allow illness a place in your consciousness. And by focusing on what is desired you emphasize on that will become your experience.
Socrates said: The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.
It is my personal feeling that most folks who do this or not aware of the harm they may be attracting to themselves. Ironically, people can believe they are empowering themselves and facing their circumstances head on when they may not be.
Recently in good faith I reached out to one of my Facebook friends to make her aware of the unintended consequences of focusing her attention on her cancer. I sent my friend a private message, suggested she recognize the power of her words and refrain from posting unflattering pictures about her cancer battle. I received a terse reply. It was something along the lines of “Thanks Kai, I am well aware of the power of words.”
According to Esther Hicks, author of Ask and It is Given,” You get what you think about whether you want it or not.” Just because your post says you are going to “beat cancer”, does not negate the fact that you are actually focused on cancer. It is a spiritual law that states what you focus on expands.
The fact of the matter is that you are still mentally involved with cancer, thus it will continue to be a part of your experience.
Kai Ajala Dupé is a doctoral student at Pepperdine University where he is conducting research on Why African American Males Are Underrepresented in Computing. He can be reached by email at email@example.com or by visiting his website at kaidupe.com